Hi friends! So we’re still catching up from our little mini hiatus over the spring (you can read a bit more about it here). This was an outfit I wore to the Los Angeles Ultimate Women’s Expo at LA Mart in the Spring. The event was a lot of fun and luckily, there is another one happening in October! I can’t wait to check out the event again. Aria & I learned about some fun up & coming products, I got a massage, and she got a free hair make-over. We had a blast!
I’m wearing a vintage scarf around my hair and some of my favorite sunglasses by Adrienne Vittadini. I absolutely love the colors in the scarf and the shape of the sunglasses. They are both so classic and retro, right?
I love mixing random bracelet together. This was a set I put together using beaded bracelets from Forever 21, the nail cuff bracelet by Shar K, and the orange skull bracelet from Nakamol Chicago. I wanted accessories that picked up the colors of my awesome floral shorts. How did I do?
I thought I had worn these shoes in a Fatshion post before but I guess I haven’t! I know I’ve posted about them on our Instagram before though! They are by Henry Ferrera and are seriously probably one of my favorite pairs of shoes. They go with everything and I wear them all the time. They have just the right amount of classiness and edge for flats. I love them.
So this is the full outfit. I absolutely love this wall outside of the LA Mart. I took another outfit post in front of it when I attended the #LALLBLOG14 Conference earlier this year. It’s such a gorgeous wall – I love all the succulents growing out of the boxes. I would probably take tons of outfit photos in front of it if I lived a bit closer!
Sunglasses: Adrienne Vittadini
Black top: H&M
White woven belt: Target
Bracelets: Shar K, Nakamol Chicago, Forever 21
Black floral shorts: some random store in the mall
Tan skull flats: Henry Ferrera
So have you been to the Los Angeles Ultimate Womens Expo before? The expo is a really fun event if you like shopping, free beauty treatments, and celebrity speakers! The Women’s Expo also happens in other cities so be sure to check it out if you’re interested!
Until next time, friends! (P.S. Tomorrow is my birthday!) ♥
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I haven’t talked too much about it but this past Spring was a really hard time for me. I was so lucky to have Aria around during this time - not only is she my blogging partner, but she’s also my best friend and roommate. Now that things are slowly getting better, I wanted to find a way to let her know how much I appreciated her support. Cue Buzzworthy Connections from Hallmark cards! Not only are they silly and totally on point, but they are also a simple inexpensive way to show someone you care!
As it turns out, these Buzzworthy Hallmark cards were just what I was looking for. I found the card I got for Aria at my local Walmart where they had a bunch of different trendy cards. Right now, Hallmark has a rewards program where you can earn rewards for every five cards you buy. I was super happy to find this out because after searching for one for Aria, I was already thinking of a handful of other people who could use their day brightened!
The card I picked out for her was super funny – the outside read: “Unlike the President, your approval rating is higher than ever!*” and the inside read: “*In a survey of one. But I’m really important if that makes a difference.” The silly pompous nature of the card was very Leo-like to me so naturally I gravitated towards it! And while the card was ultimately meant to make Aria smile, it was super important for me to convey how grateful I am for our friendship and her support.
She laughed and teared up a little when she read it. You see, in the spring, I lost my uncle to cancer, was dealing with some very intense family drama, and was going through a break-up. I didn’t feel comfortable talking about it too much online or with friends but I felt safe enough to talk to her about what was going on. She took care of me in many ways whether it was just laying in bed with me while I was crying or cooking me dinner when I was too bummed out to feed myself. She listened to me and was there for me.
We have known each other for about ten years now but this past year has been super formative for our friendship. Our bond is incredibly strong and we understand each other so much that we are often “tapped in” with each other (meaning we are usually thinking similar if not the same thing). Aria is like the sister I never had and that’s some best friend buzz worth buzzing about.
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Hey friends! I wore this sometime back in April or May I think, back when it was still cool enough to wear leggings in Southern California! That time has since passed (although, I am wearing some today so what do I know). Also my hair is a different color now too – it’s more of a pinkish purple but still awesome. I’m also wearing a necklace I won from a giveaway on Liza at Six!
I got this bracelet back when Pose was still Little Black Bag. I have to admit that I’m not super fond of the switch – I think once they have a way to filter individual sellers from the Pose products, I will like it more. But until then, I’m just gonna give lots of love to my former purchases, including this amazing bee bracelet. I absolutely love it.
I love my rings! So the flower ring I got at Nordstrom a LONG time ago. I don’t remember the brand and it was probably one of the few times I’ve bought anything from Nordstrom. I don’t know if you have noticed, but I am REALLY big on accessible clothing and fashion. That’s my thing. The other ring is a prototype I made for Magpies for Moons and I really like the way it came out.
I am obsessed with pale pink. Like OBSESSED. I never really considered myself a pink kind of girl – my favorite color is green and I like playing with my gender expression. I guess that sometimes means wearing lots of pink! Or shoes with little bows on them!
The whole look! I have worn short sleeves or sleeveless tops pretty much ever since. Not to toot my own horn, but I am fucking fierce with my arms exposed! I spent a long time hating them and only wearing 3/4 length sleeves or short (but not too short) sleeves so being comfortable? Awesome and worth the work I’ve done to put my head and heart in a better place.
Tunic: Mode Plus
Rings: Nordstrom, Magpies for Moons
Bracelet: stephan & co. via Pose
Have you made peace with a part of your body? I want to hear about it! Let’s talk about our body love. ♥
This is an open letter to people I have/do care about throughout my life that have either disregarded me, not seen my sexuality, or not seen my value and worth because of my weight. Some of these people I am still friends, even best friends, with but this is my truth. These stories are not personal attacks but rather examples of how thin privilege operates on interpersonal levels between friends, lovers, and the people we interact with. I am not necessarily placing blame – I am telling part of my story.
- I didn’t tell her how much I liked him so she could suddenly see him as a love object too and start to flirt with him. I didn’t tell her so she could be the one he spent nights talking to on the phone when that person was formerly me. I didn’t pour my heart out to her in that letter that I never gave to her because even at 12, I knew she wouldn’t understand what it was like to have grown up chubby and be one of TWO chubby girls in our class.
- I didn’t cruise dudes with her at the mall and at amusement parks so boys would inevitably choose her until she settled on the “hotter” dude and passed the “less hot” dude down to me. I didn’t cruise with her so she would amass multiple phone numbers and I would be lucky to get one, only to call them and have them ask about her.
- I didn’t go shopping with her so she could drag me into all the “cool” stores, ask for my opinion as I waited outside the waiting room for her, and have her mom buy her clothes while looking at me with eyes that told me how sorry she felt for me because I couldn’t fit into any of the clothes in those stores.
- I didn’t live with her so she could flirt with my male friends when I invited them over for social gatherings even though she knew I had a strained history with them. I didn’t live with her so she could get drunk and flirt with my boyfriends too and then just expect me to believe that “it was just how she was.”
- I didn’t invest time into getting to know him so he could drop me out of nowhere when a “hot bad girl” started giving him attention. I didn’t then invest more time to listen to him tell me how crappy she was to him while ignoring the fact that as an adult, that was the first time someone turned me down for someone thinner than I was and how detrimental that was to my self-esteem at the time.
- I didn’t sleep with him so he could hide me away while he publicly went out with thin women and only called me when he was lonely at night. I didn’t “date” him for four months to have him never take me out, never meet my friends or my family, or take part in my life only to find out that he was cheating on me left and right with younger “prettier” (thinner) girls.
- I did not spend years being his friend with our weird sexual tension for him to talk about and emotionally process with me about all the girls he had crushes on while ignoring me. I didn’t imagine him going out of his way to ask me to hang out or to touch me or playfully wrestle with me only to turn me down when I tried to make any of that real.
I am not just your fat friend on the sidelines. I am a powerful, intelligent, creative, beautiful, and emotionally rich person.
But even if I wasn’t any of those things…
I am still not your fat friend.
If you related to this post in any way, I would love to hear about your experiences of being the “fat friend.” Our experiences are real and often go unnoticed – let’s change that! Feel free to comment, tweet or write your own post with your experiences and either link me or use the #notyourfatfriend hashtag. ♥
I keep an altar in my room setup on top of my dresser. I’ve wanted one since I was young possibly because I grew up in a strictly Portuguese catholic home so ritual was a ingrained part my upbringing. I was always interested in other types of spirituality and explored it whenever I had a chance. This eventually evolved into my interest in altars. I would get bottles from the dollar store and fill them with oil, water, and food coloring and take scraps from my mom’s sewing room to assemble a table cloth on a corner table near my bed. This terrified her and she would order me to take it down. I don’t think she knew what I was doing, I don’t think I really did either. My interest in the occult developed along with philosophy and psychology in various degrees at points in my life which further solidified my need for an altar. I didn’t have a stable enough living space to set up what I consider a legitimate altar until I really settled in El Monte. I have moved around my whole life and feeling grounded isn’t an easy thing for me. I really needed it at the time and as I added more to it I felt more rooted psychologically and emotionally. Some people build altars in tribute to a specific deity. Mine is more of a collection of the things I resonate with. I have an egyptian bastet statue along with stones representing the chakras and symbols for each element. I also have framed tarot cards representing different aspects of myself and my life I want to develop. I keep incense and candles for my rituals. It is not only a representation of things I want to focus on and manifest in my life but also a ground and visual metaphor to the current of my psyche. As I have experienced life, everything is a symbol, an omen, something to connect us to a deeper truth in our world and in ourselves. It is only what we deem important that becomes important. When I feel out of sync I clean my altar piece by piece and reassemble it, I clean my room, I light incense and a corresponding candle to lift my mood. Doing this ritual aligns my head space to my emotions in a lucid and positive manner. I tap into my higher self. It’s something I maintain and in return it maintains me.
Thanks for reading about my altar. Do you have a ritual or a place in your home that is nurturing or has special to you? Comment below, we’d love to read about it. Tarot card of the Week will be return next week.