Self-Care Tips to Deal with Loneliness
Hey friends! Today I wanted to talk about something that I deal with a lot, especially in the last year – loneliness. I have a huge community of amazing and inspiring friends and family. I am so grateful for the presence of each one of them. But some days and nights, when I’m alone, I end up feeling super bummed out and craving human connection. Having a limited income and living the past year with intention as a single person can sometimes make it difficult to get that connection during those moments when I need it the most.
Loneliness is a tricky thing. Even though I typically feel it when I’m actually alone, I also sometimes feel it in a room full of people. So if you’re feeling lonely, sometimes the answer isn’t just being not alone. And like I said, sometimes even if that is the answer, it’s not always doable.
So I started to create a list of things that helped or could potentially help me in those moments. I want to share it with you in case anything on the list might help you too.
- Watch a movie, the more engaging the better! My favorites when I’m lonely are comedies or documentaries.
- Binge-watch a tv show. This past winter, I binge-watched True Blood – all seven seasons in about two weeks. Yes, I was super lonely. Yes it helped.
- Write or journal those feels out.
- Practice yoga. This is one of my favorite things to do when I’m lonely. Reconnecting with my body makes me feel whole again and comfortable being totally with myself.
- Paint your nails or do some other form of beauty-related self-care. Pampering yourself no matter what your gender is can be soothing.
- Get in touch with a friend. I have a handful of people who I know are night owls so I can text them without waking them up. Texting, phone calls, and emails are always a go-to when I’m lonely.
- Write a letter. Similarly, letters are a way to connect with people in a more tangible way and without the immediate gratification of doing it online or by phone. Bonus – you can decorate your mail or include small little gifts like stickers with your mail.
- Make something. Almost every craft I make, like this butterfly garland, is born out of having too much time on my hands.
- Have a photoshoot. Whether that means dressing up and taking some amazing selfies, taking photos of your pets, or some other awesome subject, having a photoshoot can give you a purpose and distraction away from your loneliness.
- Take yourself out on a date. The cool thing about this is that you get to decide where you go and exactly what you do. No need to take someone else into account. This one is all about you.
- Snuggle an animal or pet. Bonding with an animal, especially one of my cats, is one of the easiest ways for me to feel connected again.
- Go for a walk. Taking yourself out of your environment and moving your body can sometimes do wonders for lonely feels.
- Make a playlist of your favorite empowering songs. You don’t need anyone else to be happy – find songs that remind you of that.
- Make a collage about all the awesome things about yourself or anything that strikes your fancy. Here are some I’ve made in the past.
- Organize or clean an area you’ve been neglecting. Real talk – sweeping is one of my favorite things to do. I know it sounds weird but there is something soothing to me about passing a broom over a floor.
- Make a self-love jar. Write down 25 things that are awesome about yourself on small pieces of paper. Put those notes in a jar and add to it as you think of things. Feeling lonely? Pull out the jar and focus on you. Here is the one I made for me that I use all the time.
- Have a dance party of one. Or learn a new dance move. Or just get your body moving. It’ll help, I promise.
Here’s another list of self-soothing tips I used to use a lot when I was just entering recovery. I think many of them would work well for loneliness too! And because I love you, here is an image you can either print out or pin to your Pinterest!
What are your go-to ways of dealing with the tricky feeling of being lonely? Please share!